| A man
and his castle
In dealing with any problem in a free country,
first and foremost,
the civil rights and liberties of the
citizens must be preserved if we are not to descend into a
police state. In addition, any workable laws to control domestic
violence must recognize human biology and sexuality. However,
current laws, and the feminist viewpoint, attack the problem by
forcibly separating male and female when they quarrel.
Removing the King
from his castle may quiet things down inside the battlements,
unless of course it is the Queen who is stirring up rebellion.
But a King forcibly removed from his castle is hardly likely to
extend his protection to the citizens remaining in the keep.
Woe unto them!
Is that what we want
for families? Wouldn't peace between King and Queen be
preferable to the death and destruction that so commonly follows
a palace uprising? Lets try and solve the problem rather than
simply blaming the male.
Women and, most
particularly, children need the security, protection, balance,
and instruction of a male. Except in extreme cases, to
forcefully remove those safeguards in the name of whatever
movement, be it 'domestic violence' or any other fanatical
ideology, is detrimental to the children and, ultimately, to the
society.
We seem to be making
the problems worse instead of better with our present approach,
particularly where children are involved. Our evolution, and
present sociology, all suggest that removing the male from child
rearing retards the human infant. Human males have evolved to
protect their women and children.
Studies clearly show
that the safest place for a child is in the presence of their
biological father. There is a sound evolutionary basis for that.
Fathers who don't protect their children
don't have many grandchildren. There is also clear evidence
that more than half the time when couples fight, it is the woman
who initiates the violence. To punish the King because the Queen
has gone mad is the height of folly and a perfect path to
anarchy.
If we looked,
perhaps there are better ways than the current draconian laws to
handle a couple who quarrel. Few couples don't at some point.
Education is one of the most successful of human endeavors.
Conversely, arrest and jails reflect a failure of society, as
well as individuals, and are the tools of tyrants. Why do we
chose the latter, and forbid the former, for the treatment of
problems in the most basic unit of our society?
Shouting, pushing,
shoving, and even some hitting are common in relationships
between men and women and, in most cases, should be regarded as
normal inasmuch as a large percentage of the population behaves
in this manner. Further, it is estimated that 10%-15% of couples
engage in some level of sadomasochism (S&M). Our jails are not
large enough, nor should they be, to hold that percentage of our
population. Revolution is the most likely outcome of attempting
such draconian measures. The objective should be to keep such
arguments civilized, the violence by either party at a minimum,
and out of the courts.
Lawmakers and,
consequently, the courts have been micromanaging marriage and
relationships between men and women over the past 50 years with
regard to divorce. As a result we now have the American-style
divorce where the male gets to keep what falls off the truck
when she drives away.
One consequence of
these divorce laws is that about 70% of Colorado marriages now
end up in divorce court and attorneys have multiplied like
locusts.
Is destruction of families in America the
intent of the legislature?
Clearly it is the intent of feminists such
as Lenore Walker.
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